Aug 14 2007

What "color" is your Fantasy?

It's sad that most black men believe that the closer a black woman resembles a white woman, the more beautiful a black woman is-this form of brainwash is especially prevalent in these athletes and entertainers. For one, beauty is only judged by the person observing and can have some extreme variations, although it's unfortunate that many of us have been conditioned to believe that a certain type of look is beautiful. We are all beautiful women no matter what color we are. Men need to look into the hearts and the minds.

great article.......thanks

Leticia, check out this link. I have done some very basic research. Let me know what you think. http://urbanlegends.about.com/library/bl_serena_williams.htm

My fantasies are in TECHNICOLOR :) Why limit yourself to one flavor?

What seperates a man from a boy? Who knows, you could defin it many different ways. A measure that my father used is that men take care of their families financially and emotionally, while boys do not. White men marry and stay married at much higher rates than black men do. Does that mean that there are not many black men who do not hold down jobs, come home at night, support their children? Of course not! But by that measure, Serena was right, black men do tend (statistically)to be more boylike than white men.

According to present calculations, by the next millenium, there won't be any thing such as race so why resist the inevitable....it really comes down to personal choice.

ineresting article..thanks Leticia. Not sure if Serena ever said that about black men since she's dated a couple.

I really dont have a problem with interracial relationships but heres the deal. In coming together you should have a better understanding of each others culture, but what seems to be more apparent and dictating is the physical thing. The appearance. Each of these couples just ends up hating their culture and the sad thing its usually the black person. Why because they dont value themselves enough. Away from the physical thing, there is nothing much to the person. They are usually not very strong in regards to their heritage and really believing that their culture is a good as anyone elses. There should not be a sacrifice of backgrounds but a coming together. On the converse I often find a disportortionate number of these relationships are skewed. Either the white person is really uncomfortable about been around more than one black oerson or its the other way round. Also because each couple choose to hero worship each other they tend to want to impose this on everyone else. One of my best friends who came from jamacia who is more black than me, used to eat nothing but west indian food and chat jamacian. Now she is married she refuses to send her children to the carribean for even holiday, they never see any of her black friends or family, her husband is white and an only child and they have really isolated themselves bringing up their two girls. She says her mother is an embarrassment and I think she is somewhere I would not want to be if I were in an interracial relationship. The same with my kid brother. We are a well educated family and my brother got a blonde hair, blue eyed girlfriend and we never saw him for 5yrs and when he set up an award winning business, he never even so much as invited his own mother. Her friends and family were there none of his black friends or family. 5yrs later she has ditched him after all the hard work and who does he come running to for a roof over his head? Us. I dont understand it. But its not good from where I am standing. Perhaps people need to just face it, that sexual attraction is good but they dont have to do the marriage thing, till they can really learn to appreciate each other culturally.

I think there's a certain amount of social engineering involved. I know in some places in Western Europe it's become common for white women to want to have kids with black men. They like the idea and the look of having brown skinned babies and the "exotic" look of mixed-race kids.

I think Cocokisses summed it up best. It's not the color of the skin, it's the quality of the man that matters most.

I love Jesus more than anything, the person that God sends me is the color i'm to love.

I think its all a matter of preference, but I don't have to slam my own race to make a point.

The color of my fantasy is love. I want that elusive emotion to envelop my every being so that I will be loyal, respectful and committed to "The One" that was meant for me. I expect that I will possess only an appreciation for the uniqueness he brings to the union.

personally, i'm an equal opportunist!

I see things in life. Not color!

Some of you guys I tell ya....Look at this article this way. Who cares who anyone dates as long as it makes them happy? If you don't like what you see...you can: 1.look the other way 2.turn the channel 3.try to date the person yourself since your so much better People date outside of the race because...well because they can! This is America and it is a free country so #4 travel to a place where there is only one race...oh wait... there isn't such a place.

I feel that there are a lot of interracial daters that look upon their potential partners as people. If you are mature enough, secure enough as a person to date outside of your race; then your driving force should be: who they, how to they make me feel, do they respect me and can I return that respect. Learning about and respecting an indivual's culture should be a given no matter what your race if the person you are with is to be your partner in life.

My fantasy colour is for me to know and you to possible find out hahaha.. it is sensual, deep, romantic, and SEXY Yay !! hahaha

Even with Serena categorically denying the interview attributed to her (and ignoring the question of how well Leticia checks her sources [there are journalistic standards in the world outside the Web]), the fact that rumors like this take root so easily seem to point out a common stereotype. The truth is that any woman who looks to White guys to be "men" while accepting that Black guys never mature beyond "boys" status is in for a rude awakening. It's just not true. Unfortunately, too many of my gender remain in the boy category for far too long, some for all their lives. Expecting anything else based on pigmentation is naive and, of course, racist.

I have found this article and, even more so the comments it evoked very interesing and revealing. I, too, dream and fantisize in technicolor. I have all my life, despite the fact that our society or some stubburn remnents of it frown upon interracial dating (for lack of a better term). To this day I still get razzed with well meaning comments about my preferences in women. So be it. I guess it started when I was very young that I was attracted out of curiosity to people of other colors (who looked different than most people I saw every day. There was a certain allure that stemmed from the "forbidden fruit" concept when it came to girls and later women. I'm sure, in retrospect that some it had to do with a certain level of rejection of my own race's attitudes, status, culture, etc. A kind of rebellion. Of course I came of age in the sixties. Then there grew a genuine respect and admiration of the culture and history that women of color possessed. Now I'm to the point that while I prefer certain physical types I have actually become more open to women of almost all colors and cultures. I think I've reached a point where I am more independent minded and mature. I like everyone have prejudices, though I try to keep an open mind about possibilities in almost all situations and spheres. I must say I particularly relate to comments by Dutton, fkoi anf velvet. Thanks for prodding the old grey matter folks! Keep thinking & keep talking!

I think it black women talking about white men can do better than black men (bullshit). Hey Women, stop talking about nonsense. Look at Obam'wife. He and She Black!