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Jun 14 2008
Testing One, Two, and Three?
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27th of May, 2008
I feel drained after reading this crazy article! Who wants to go to the movies?
17th of Jun, 2008
Bueller? Bueller? I heard Ferris is sick
21st of Jun, 2008
I have read this book and it is a good - no an excellent read...no book is 100% dead on but this one is a classic and it is so right...what Deida is pointing out is that men are men and need direction...too many times in life we let either women, friends, employers steer our lifes away from true happiness..bottom line, a good woman will want a man with a backbone and an independent streak - ultimate strength...
23rd of Jun, 2008
WOW, That's pretty powerful because it's real. We all want a man to put his all into a relationship as he does his career and personal life. This book seems like it will help us understand eachother. It seems sexual and that is a major part of sustaining a relationship. However we need to connect mentally as well.
26th of Jun, 2008
I actually found the book on the author's website.
http://www.deidacentral.com/bookpreviews/thewayofthesuperiorman.pdf
28th of Jun, 2008
Interesting book.
28th of Jun, 2008
We must be true to ourselves and finding another who is truly a fit is why we're here. Sure it's easy to find someone who's kind of a fit, with the idea that the character traits we don't like can be changed but that's precisely why the relationship will fail, wasting time and energy and leaving cynicism, bitterness and negative, useless behaviors like these dating mind games "testing." Trying to change our (or our mates') natures or passions is essentially false - It's destroying the very things we admire and must experience, to be happy. Deida is right on about this.
Dating games are fatal for me - They show a fundamental immaturity, dishonesty and lack of comfort with basic communication. Yes, it takes more guts to speak strongly with forthright tactfulness but that level of communication is necessary to build a great love. It's sad that people get hurt but the answer is to choose good quality people to associate with, not to retreat.
6th of Jul, 2008
I haven't read this book yet(and I just may, it sounds interesting), and I suppose the author has some true points about dating and women's attitudes, but like the author says, take the advice given by anyone or thing-a book, a friend, family mambers-with a grain of salt. Not every pearl of wisdom fits with every situation. I have to say that as I've grown up, I've ventured into the "plain speaking" that some men wish that women did more of, and I've run into the type of man who has tried to change ME into the type of person they wanted! Don't fall for the trite stereotypes of women trying to "change a man" into something perfect, and the man who "just wants to be appreciated for being him".
8th of Jul, 2008
Well now after reading the quotes I sure do what to read the book. hmm all that tongue licking and pelvis twitching .. lol.. Ok this book is just another book on the market to try to explain the human nature of man or woman.. the best way to learn anyone is study them, and as far as men.I am 39 and I still have no ideal what the hell they want. Could be why I am still single .. lol.. Well my outlook on it is. Let a man be a man and let a woman be a woman.. A man feels more like a man if you let him be one. We was all placed on earth in our own special places , The animals have a job , us ladies have a job and our men have a job. I want my man to know he is the man, He is the head .. Hmm in more ways than one, Ok couldn't resists .
lol. Women stop tryin to roll the dayum boat you need the paddles to get anywhere. Just my thought..
18th of Jul, 2008
Draining the life out of a man one orgasm at a time? Is that supposed to be better than the slow draining of life out of me? But really I think the main issue is this. Men and women are different. Not just as individuals but our basic motivations are different. We want what the other can get easily. Women want love because sex is easy. Men want sex because women are beating them down with love. But no one is talking to each other in a way that the other understand or would listen to. Plain and simple. I don't need to read another 300 pages of drivel to know that. I mean really, think of the number of times someone of the opposite sex said something to you and what you understood was something different then what they thought they were saying. You are both speaking the same language but you are understanding different things. The point of my diatribe is to say that you don't need to understand men or women as a group. You are only trying to understand and get along and communicate with that one you are with. That is a task and a half in itself. And in that way you can be true to yourself and your mate. I could be wrong.
18th of Jul, 2008
Oh and I would like to say one more thing. I don't think the cookie cutter idea of a man's place and woman's place applies anymore. I think it is going to be more complicated than that. Sorry. I think people are wanting it to be that easy again. And it isn't. You have to be more to yourself and your mate. You will both have to hash out what those places are to each other and how that will work within the confines of your own relationship. If being the man in one relationship means being the bread winner and she stays home and it works then great. If it means the direct opposite and it works, great. But the thing is today, you can't assume it anymore. There has to be more pragmatism and practicality in a relationship. Yes, more communication. You have to be willing to figure out what works for you. Being a man isn't just about bringing home the bacon anymore and being a woman isn't just about having the kids. You have to decide that your relationship is more than just what people think it should be and be what works.
3rd of Aug, 2008
Pretty much bang on.
As a man, it seems obvious that this book is not just about men - but written FOR men.
I found most of it both inspirational and affirming to the point of feeling quite empowered as a man.
The bit about mens relationships to men (10)was quite enlightening.
Of course women may recognise many charecteristics and perhaps understand intellectually, but fundimentally will be feeling/ interpreting from the femme perspective/ experience. So is not surprising if women struggle to 'fully' cognize or appreciate.
Seems that is also important to recognise that the book is talking about the 'superior man' - So Atlmocha - This means that we are not talking about the typical or average man - by definition.
This raises the question - 'Superior' to what?
To me this affirms that the book is not just about men, but is aimed at men. A man will fully recognise that the question and measure is against oneself and oneself alone - and that this in it'self is a very masculine thing.
Brilliant.
8th of Aug, 2008
Love this article (just like all the other ones), and I will be looking for the book :-)
Ana
I feel drained after reading this crazy article! Who wants to go to the movies?