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Jul 23 2008
Pleasure vs. Pain Principle
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27th of Jul, 2008
Leticia, Great article you hit that one out of the park. Sometimes we need to take our filters off and just go with the flo. Something or someone you never thought you might be attrackted to could just be what your looking for.
G
30th of Jul, 2008
True story, sometimes we need to loosing up...and see whats beyond face value or perfection as we see it.
6th of Aug, 2008
I couldn't agree with you more! One man's / woman's treasure is another's trash! Prefection is all in how you "view" it!
12th of Aug, 2008
I know sometimes i feel like i need to loosen up on certain things..I'm learning though.
12th of Aug, 2008
I know sometimes i feel like i need to loosen up on certain things..I'm learning though.
15th of Aug, 2008
Good article. I think that sometimes some of our "filters" turn out not to be ours at all but something that comes from the outside.
I like the saying that while someone may not be perfect, she may be perfect for me. Sometimes we do just have to grab our briefcase and hurdle through the airport. If you hadn't made those decisions that day, Leticia, you might still be in that first airport waiting (metaphorically speaking anyway).
17th of Aug, 2008
Perfect, Leticia...you've given us great wisdom here. And congratulations to you too FKOI, I see you've learned a lot since July 25.
25th of Aug, 2008
Your words are beautiful. Society has instructed us to be cautious. In many instances this is true but were all on this site looking for something or someone.
If you don't take a chance you may miss out on your future of happiness.
31st of Aug, 2008
Stop and smell the roses!!!!
31st of Aug, 2008
Leticia, I agree!! Thanks for the reminder, since I don't always practice what I believe!!
1st of Sep, 2008
barriers don't help...go out there and just be yourself..you will surprised what life has in store for you
2nd of Sep, 2008
some filters are actually due to a weakness..but you cannot know untill you try.
4th of Sep, 2008
Filters, barriers; that stuff that exists in our minds. Get rid of that stuff.
7th of Sep, 2008
when you have been treated badly in other relationships we do put barriers up, so no one can get in and hurt you again. Ok it doesnt help but eventually we get past that and try again as you never know if that right guy is just waiting for you to cross his path just so he can treat you just how it is you wanted to be treated in the first place. So really barriers stop you getting the things you want the guy you want.
8th of Sep, 2008
Yes Jabali, they do exist in our minds thats why we need to get rid of them
24th of Sep, 2008
Well, pleasure vs pain, hmmm. I tend to appreciate pleasure much more, although some folks are really, really into pain, really like that sort of thing.
5th of Oct, 2008
i feel that my profile all by itself is an intimidating filter/barrier-'surely i don't mean for it to be-i just get so few matchings and hookups locally-that it's about all that there's left for me to do IS to reach out to people via online-also putting a picture online would help (me) too-to attract possibly, however so-i "can't afford it to mean that much"-E:beautiful people tend not to (and of course-i don't mean all)front all of their substance at once-some..and i mean some
have one work quite hard to reach in to get to know them-because their outer can
throw one off-guard-and the whole experience can rear some imcredible scars of not trusting. in other words:
hold (myself the most) accountable-while open and balanced while i reach out to people/fellas-and curb my baggage/garbage at the door:)
'peace assured
jw
5th of Oct, 2008
We all need to step outside the box once in a while and see that there are men and women out there who may not be ideal in the eyes of our family but is ideal for us, finding the special person to share life with is a treasure,and when you stop putting up fences we block others from coming in and treating you right. loosen up once in a while and let go, and not all men and women are bad.
Leticia, Great article you hit that one out of the park. Sometimes we need to take our filters off and just go with the flo. Something or someone you never thought you might be attrackted to could just be what your looking for. G