Fear of intimacy is different than fear of commitment. You can be married and not know your partner emotionally, intellectually, or spiritually. In fact, loneliness in marriage is more difficult than being lonely as a single person or widow. Marital loneliness springs from fear of intimacy in one or both partners. What causes this phobia and what can be done to prevent or stop it?
No matter where you are the big news everywhere seems to be the economy. If it's not the housing crisis, it's gas prices. We wont even talk about the price of milk and bread these days. I can't begin to tell you how many people I know that say that not only can they "not" afford to go out on a date, they can't haven't even just hang out at the club or bar in hopes of meeting someone that they can't afford to date. So, what do you do?
Have you ever thought about what kind of dater you are? Are you purpose driven or passion driven? What's the difference? Well, some people date to have a good time, not be alone, meet new people and make new friends and acquaintances. Others date with the sole intent to find a mate, get married and start a family. Which are you and are you seeking other daters or mate'ers? Before you go out on your next date you must know the answer to this question... am I a dater or a mate'er.
Depending on who is doing the prowling there has always been a name for it... "Lolita, Boy Toys, Jail bait and now Cougars". It really boils down to the coupling of two individuals where there is an considerable age difference. Cougars are the older women hooking up with hot young men for SEX! They even have a movie about them. Not a good movie, but it just tells you how popular this "coupling" has become for the older women that take on a younger man. Is it an option for you? I guess it all depends on how young you feel and what you're looking for.
If you want to get married but you're not even close to it...do you ever wonder if it's something that you did or are doing? How do you think that others see you or talk about you when you're not around? Are you sending off those "desperately seeking" signals or just a sign that reads "do not enter"?
