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Nov 25 2006
Can you measure True Love in Miles?
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27th of Nov, 2006
I don't rate long distance relationships at all. This site has some of the most gorgeous women in the world and they are mostly oceans away!
It's a real tease but hey I reckon one day there'll be this cute woman on here that lives down the road - you have to keep trying.
27th of Nov, 2006
Long distance relationship does work and the best part of this kind of relationship that you get to know the person first and then go in for a relationship, where as in normal dating a guy or a man is more than happy to get the girl/woman laid. Thats crap.
27th of Nov, 2006
I have been in long distance relationships, and they didn't end up well...at least not for me. There were many trust issues on both sides so we ended it. Now I don't like to look further than my own back yard. Someone local is best for me :) Great article though!
27th of Nov, 2006
Long Distance relationships have not worked out well for me in the past, not as fortune as some success stories. There is always the ones that say they want or found someone closer to them and want to see if that works, or they were always acusing me of cheating. Trust was always the thing that torn my apart
28th of Nov, 2006
it has and hasnt worked in the past for me. and hopefully the one im in now will work cause i really do love and cherish this special woman.
28th of Nov, 2006
i met a man on this site, and we hit it off so well, but he has removed his profile, but i stayed because of my friends, i have filled him in, everything that i do i let him know because i think communication in any relationship is key
28th of Nov, 2006
I agree with the other comments. Most of the cutest guys seem to be overseas.
28th of Nov, 2006
WELL I TRYED A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP 5 YEARS AGO. EVEN THOGH WE MET ONLINE, WE\'LD TALK ON THE PHONE AND EMAIL, AND EVEN SENT LETTERS AND PICS OF OURSELVES, AND ECT...YES THERE WAS A TRUST ISSUE WE BOTH HAD, BECUZ OF PAST RELATIONSHIPS. ALSO EVERYTIME HE WAS SUPPOSE TO MEET ME, AT A PUBLIC PLACE, ALL OF A SUDDEN SOMETHEN CAME UP AND HE\'LD NEVER MAKE THE TRIP.....YES, I DO BELIEVE MEETING A PERSON ONLINE,IS A VERY GOOD THING, A VERY NICE WAY OF TAKING THE TIME TO UNDERSTAND,AND GET TO KNOW EACHOTHER.....TO ME I JUST LIKE THE FACT OF GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE FOR WHO THEY ARE, AND THEN LET THINGS HAPPEN NATURALLY.......
29th of Nov, 2006
i say, you wont know until you meet them to see if the chemistry is there.
29th of Nov, 2006
well the distance is a matter, for real, you like a lot of persons and at the end u never meet one!!!
29th of Nov, 2006
its always the cutest guy that over takes it all...the other comments are good too amd mislady is right..trust is hard in a long distance relationship when you cant seem to be together more often...but online dating has its advantages
29th of Nov, 2006
Im not one built for long distant relationships... maybe if i was younger but now that im older and my needs have changed, nope.. not in my cards. but i do give props to those that can handle it because it takes a lot of patience and trust.
29th of Nov, 2006
I have never been in a serious long distance relationship... but its mostly because I could never get past the whole 'getting to know you' thing. I think I have just been spoiled in the past with guys who wanted to spend so much time together that I can't imagine not spending a lot of time with my mate.
30th of Nov, 2006
A long distance relationship is very hard to maintain without having a lot of money for travel. If you can not see your partner frequently enough you may stray...and trust is what a long distant relationship is build upon.
30th of Nov, 2006
You know what, I loved this article. It expresses the very thing I feel and I am dealing with at this moment.
30th of Nov, 2006
to be in one presence tells it all.
30th of Nov, 2006
ahhh a subject close to my heart
as my heart is not close to me
i hold his heart
and he holds mine
cos it was just meant to be
nothing else matters..... :D
30th of Nov, 2006
There is always hope that we will find 'the right one'. Whether they are far away or close I think that if both partners care enough bout each other it will work. Remember Bombtongue and Maurice. She was in the UK and he was in the US. Now they are getting married.
30th of Nov, 2006
Long distance relationships are hard to keep up simply because most people dont have the dedication to put into it. Its all up to the individual in the end.
30th of Nov, 2006
Oh yes distance does make the heart grow fonder
30th of Nov, 2006
I agreet that trust is paramount and each person has to decide for themselves what will work for them.....
30th of Nov, 2006
I really don't think long distance relationship can work..but you never know
1st of Dec, 2006
Mostly I like the fact that the distance forces you to get to know each other slowly, and then you only continue communications if you're really hitting it off and love talking to each other day after day. In other words, it isn't just sex that keeps you coming back for more. You can develop a real friendship, which--if it's meant to be--will be what sustains the relationship for many years to come. I'm still close friends with one guy I was in a LD relationship with several years ago. Turned out we weren't meant to be as romantic partners, but we'll be friends forever, so no regrets there. Nearly 3 years ago I met another guy online who, over time, has become one of my best friends. He's just moved back to the U.S., so we'll see what happens from here. Either way, I know we'll always be friends so, again, no regrets.
1st of Dec, 2006
Personally I have never had a meaingful ld relationship.
2nd of Dec, 2006
hard, but worth it when u find that special person.
2nd of Dec, 2006
distance makes the heart grow fonder..
3rd of Dec, 2006
I believe in long distant relationships. I have been in one myself. In the end it did not work out but it was not the distance that did it in. You just have to be upfront with your expectations and realize the level of commitment you are willing to put in. In a lot of ways a long distance relationship takes more to make it work than a local one.
3rd of Dec, 2006
I don't have a problem with it - as long as he comes home to me at the end of the day.
3rd of Dec, 2006
i dont think love is gonna travel to see moi
3rd of Dec, 2006
Very interesting. But I have to agree with you... I enter relationships the same as I enter a room... the booty is always last!!!
4th of Dec, 2006
Or is it that distance makes the heart wonder? There are times where I just want someone to be there at least within driving distance.
4th of Dec, 2006
I admire all of the folks out there who are trying to maintain a long distance relationship. I am sure if your heart is in it and the commentment is there, you'll make it work. The best of luck to you all! We never know where or when love is going to find us!
5th of Dec, 2006
The beauty is every where but the love you don’t know where you can find it.
5th of Dec, 2006
The beauty is every where but the love you don’t know where you can find it.
5th of Dec, 2006
Hmmm long distant relationships? Plenty of good arguments for and against.
Personally - I feel that people who have the need to indulge in such are perhaps more in love with the fantasy of a relationship, more so than actually entering into a proper loving, supportive relationship. I feel long distance relationships are very unrealistic and can lead to idealisation of the other person etc.
But as they say - each to their own and whatever floats your boat.
And good luck if your own long distance relationship is working out fine.
6th of Dec, 2006
If I met a nice decent honest guy I wouldn't care where in the world he was.
6th of Dec, 2006
to be in the presence of someone tells it all...
6th of Dec, 2006
Long distance relationships are not easy and can be even more difficult with someone is treating the relationship as an open one. I don't think that is good. Life comes with trials and tribulations and one way to see if it is real (true) love is to remain faithful to that person whether they are 1500 miles away or 2 miles away.
7th of Dec, 2006
If both people are willing to put in a concerted effort it can be really amazing to be in a long distance relationship. You feel excited by the smallest things and you appreciate one another more than you do when you see each other all the time. It\'s not easy, but you can enjoy it and work towards rectifying the situation by getting closer (distance-wise) in the future.
7th of Dec, 2006
Long distance relationships is a good topic for this website. I don't think most people on this site are ready for a long distance relationship and the truth of the matter they are probably going to be disappointed. But the struggles of love make a long distance relationship worthwhile.
9th of Dec, 2006
maybe distance is good for bigger feelings too!!!
9th of Dec, 2006
distance can be worth it. its just extra hard.
10th of Dec, 2006
long distance relationships can work but only if both parties are willing to give their all in ensuring that the relationship stays strong. but having said that, nothing beats having someone to cuddle up to at the end of the day!
10th of Dec, 2006
Give me an honest cute guy within travelling ditance lol! Are they a dying breed or what?
10th of Dec, 2006
Hey Lizzy - ask father xmas to order you one. You never know!!!
10th of Dec, 2006
We need some new articles. The comments are great on this one though :)
10th of Dec, 2006
in a perfect world, you fall in love with the person no matter how near or far and neither will stray... but then we go back to reality. we are not perfect people, we do not work or live in a perfect world, and its going to take an extrodinarly strong person to maintain the distance. i have that opportunity to embark on a long distance relationship but without being able to spend time with that person and able to see them more than on cam, i have to just remain friends and hope i am not making a mistake by not pursuing this person.
11th of Dec, 2006
If someone is really caring and there is trust, no amout of distance will matter. Then, not to talk of romantic partners, they'll be hours and hours on the phone or net to each other.
11th of Dec, 2006
Distance doesn't realy matter its your heart because wherever you are, you can decide to be sincere or just dogg.
11th of Dec, 2006
well whatever, if ppl are good, everything is good, otherwise.... no chance!
12th of Dec, 2006
Love can conqer all even distance.
12th of Dec, 2006
Long distance relationship only work if two people put in the effort to make it last.
12th of Dec, 2006
Long distance relationships...difficult at best. I am still willing to try if a connection is made.
13th of Dec, 2006
I have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years. We started off as friends. We had our ups and downs as any other friendship but the best thing about it we talked all the time. Talking and getting to know someone before a serious relationship happen is the best. Because you both know if you want this relationship to work. Yes the distance maybe be hard but if you too work just as hard as keeping the relationship then it will work.
16th of Dec, 2006
i look at a sucess story like bombtounge and maurice who both literally were from opposite sides of the globe but made it happen because they were not going to let distance tell them no. but honestly not all of us have that high drive to overcome such an obsticle as long distance . i give much respect to those who can.
16th of Dec, 2006
Love isnt measurable.. but ofcourse you can feel true love.
16th of Dec, 2006
long distance is tough but can work.
16th of Dec, 2006
I give a lot of respect and a lot of credit to people that try to make a Long distance relationship work. I believe it can as long both parties realize that for it to work, onoe would need to relocate to be with the other. like my profile states, if i met someone lond distance, n she was "the one" well i would move. But during that time i would like for us to see each other at least once a month. To long of a absence, can wear the relationship down. remember, "true love conquers all"
17th of Dec, 2006
Ride on Aantonio boy, "True Love Conquers All"
18th of Dec, 2006
Long distance is cool.. its hard to maintain such a relationship but it does work.
18th of Dec, 2006
I know for me, I met my ex-husband online and it was 6 beautiful years of marriage. However, it got to be hard because I was not ready to move to another state because of my elderly parents and he couldnt move here because of his elderly parents. The traveling every weekend became very expensive for the both of us so we decided to split up. We parted as friends and decided that if our paths cross later we will see what happend
19th of Dec, 2006
The distance is just a test of loyalty and sincerity. Eventually, two hearts come together physically and so begins the test of time. If love is true, it will most definitely last forever no matter how it began.
19th of Dec, 2006
Until recently I used to think love could conquer all. Now I am not so sure.
20th of Dec, 2006
I don't think you can measure love, if that's he case alot of people wouldn't be online looking for LOVE...
20th of Dec, 2006
I am considering a long distance relationship now. The question still remains...can it work? I hope so
20th of Dec, 2006
distance makes a difference.
21st of Dec, 2006
Long distance relationships are a real challenge. They can work if and only if the parties are dedicated to each other. If you are experimenting with love don't try it long distance. Just my experience.
21st of Dec, 2006
I really don't know if a long distance online relationship might work but i think it 's worth a shot....
22nd of Dec, 2006
....I agree with Lizzy2005--Love can conquer all--even distances--but its still better not to be too too far away!!
27th of Dec, 2006
True love has no boundries.
28th of Dec, 2006
True love distance has no boundries but it does take some work to make it work.
2nd of Jan, 2007
true love lasts and lasts through thick and thin near and far good and bad
2nd of Jan, 2007
Distance can make being together hard, at times.
4th of Jan, 2007
long distance relationships are hard.
4th of Jan, 2007
Though I have not yet found myself in a long distance relationship I am not against them and do think they can work. If all parties involved are honest and straight forwar all things are possible.
4th of Jan, 2007
I would agree with the article that if both parties going into the long term relationship are open and honest then the relationship can work.
4th of Jan, 2007
Distance does make a heart fonder!
10th of Jan, 2007
I agree that yes it could be
14th of Jan, 2007
I don't think we hear many success stories from folks here that are many miles apart. If a couple can make it work, then that is great, but I think they have to put a lot more effort into it that other couples. Allthe best to the ones that are trying to make it work!
23rd of Jan, 2007
We don't hear many success stories of people who live far away. And its sad but very true, I wish we did. Distance has never really been an issue with me as I have been in the military before. You make it through. But alot of men I have ran across it matters to them.
Editors note and General comment: In fact MOST of our success stories have involved people starting in a long distance relationship. When you join a dating site are you looking for love or a zipcode?
5th of Feb, 2007
Long distance relationships are extremely hard work and it take a lot
communication and strong will to make it work. I wish you all luck
11th of Feb, 2007
Long distance relationships can be beneficial in the area of trust if two people are willing to be totally honest with each other.
5th of Mar, 2007
good luck to all the people who are in a long distance relationship. i know i couldnt do it.
28th of Mar, 2007
I think its possible with lots of communication and trust. Without those ingrediants plus a real connection...its doomed. Just my two cents
11th of Apr, 2007
I think if you really want someone for life, someone you may love and who maybe the one, better get open as you really don\'t know where YOUR ONE maybe living.
25th of May, 2007
long distance is obviously difficult...and more and more it seems...all the good ones live a state or two or more away from my home state...so I will have to move one day-timing is everything....!
1st of Jul, 2007
i found love in india my problem is how will we see each if, he can't get here.He want me to come there i would love to but, should i ask him to help with the cost?that is the question.
7th of Aug, 2007
I've tried long distance relationships and they are hard. There's so much that you have to sort out, like whether or not you're being scammed or played with. That's my personal experience. However, my ex-boyfriend's father found his wife online and they're still married.
16th of Sep, 2007
I'm in a long distance relationship: in the beginning we spent months online and on the phone taking our time getting to know and to trust eachother, before finally meeting for real.
A distance of over 1200 km seperates us, we try to meet every month for a few days, a week....as long as we can (we're both divorced single parents). The happiest and best moments: our meetings at the airports, and the time we spend together hoping the hours and days will slowly go by.
The worse parts are.....our partings, we've even banned the word "goodbye" from our vocab, as for us, it sounded like something definate.... like forever, worse of all though, is when we're apart, want to relax, hug, kiss, smile, laugh with eachother, share our thoughts and feelings, feel the warmth of eachothers bodies, talk about God and the world together, do all the things that other couples do together (YES, writing this makes me miss him even more him right now), and there's this darn distance between us. Thank God for the telephone and internet, even though they're poor substitutes for being together, we keep them "burning hot" for hours every night.
In the 2 years since our first chat here, we've had our share of ups and downs, tragedies and breakups, until finaly we realised, and understood, that what we have, is real true love for eachother and we want to stay together. In a few weeks, a new chapter in our relationship begins.....I'll be moving in with him, and we're both happy and excited about it.
12th of Nov, 2007
I am currently "getting to know" someone from another state; it's been a little over 2mths now. In the beginning we talked on the phone atleast once a week, then that came to a halt. He claimed he is not a phone person. I said ok. So we decided to go back to IMing each other. That seem to work better. He actually opened up better and has become more sexually that way. Although i feel at times he only wants to talk about sex. If i would change the subject, he would change it back to sex. But he tells me,"oh we can talk about anything you want to talk about."
When i would ask about meeting he would come up with excuses about distance, money and time off work.
Recently i brought up the topic about us meeting again. Because i feel that he has no intention of meeting, he just makes empty promises and it's really starting to get to me. Every friendship/relationship in its first stage need to be take to another level. Maybe 2mths is too early? Is it? So since we both love football: Him college; me NFL, i decided to invite him to DC to watch the Rdsk vs. Dallas game at the end of the year. He said ok. I am so trying to be positive about this whole thing. I do like him alot. But he sends me lots of poems about love and wanting and making love, but rarely anything from the heart. Sometimes i ask him to put a break on the poems, and just talk to me. I try to email him each morning with a hello and wish him a good day at school (we both teach) so i try to show some support, because i know how hard it is to do what we both do on a daily.
In all fairness he did invite me to see one of his college games, but i told him me being the female, he should visit me first. I just think it is safer and the right thing to do. So am asking Fala, Cocokisses and Whyt boy for your suggestion on this; you guys give sound advise, not to dismiss the others, but Fala always responds to my commemts. Thank you Fala for the support. I so needed that. I talk to my mom a little about him, all she said was she is (dont laugh) afraid of wht men. He said, he hasn't told anyone because he doesn't want to jinx things.
I say BS! that was 2mths ago! He needs to step up to the plate.
ie. although this article is old, i just happend upon it. I need some serious advise. I am a person who tends to give up easily, but i don't want to give up just yet on this one.
I don't rate long distance relationships at all. This site has some of the most gorgeous women in the world and they are mostly oceans away! It's a real tease but hey I reckon one day there'll be this cute woman on here that lives down the road - you have to keep trying.