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Nov 14 2007
Forget what's your sign? How about what's your score?
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21st of Nov, 2007
I think folks should keep the bank accounts separate. Either way, all of the finances need to be discussed and worked out by the couple. Everyone knows that so many marriages end because of poor money management. It always helps to have a plan before getting married or living together.
22nd of Nov, 2007
When it comes to money and relationships, what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine.
27th of Nov, 2007
that figures fala, would say that
27th of Nov, 2007
Prenup!!!
30th of Nov, 2007
Now y'all know you are wrong Moss & Fala! LOL!
2nd of Dec, 2007
I ain't saying she's a goldigger
3rd of Dec, 2007
separate money... ALWAYS
3rd of Dec, 2007
A most obnoxious article for sure...a real romance killer. Symptomatic of today's excessively materialistic society. The author should be ashamed if this is how she views relationships.
Exchange credit scores indeed!!!!
4th of Dec, 2007
Come on Coco, you know on the first date you can't wait to get a look at his . . . bank account!
4th of Dec, 2007
the root of all evil
4th of Dec, 2007
A bigger romance killer for me was getting involved with someone that had extremely bad credit & money management skills and as a result my credit tanked, we payed more in bank fees than we payed for monthly groceries. Neither one of us was good at this...obviously, but instead of talking about it, we thought that was the way it was done...duh!!! Now, new relationship, new attitude and feelings about money. Just because you talk about money/credit doesn't make you materialistic. But,not talking about it makes you ignorant to what's really going on. Last time I checked ignorance of anything was no excuse. I enjoyed the article and thought that it was dead on point.
5th of Dec, 2007
No, you're not Unme!
8th of Dec, 2007
What's your sign and credit score? lol
11th of Dec, 2007
haha fala, you know what i meant!!
11th of Dec, 2007
Not me Fala...I want to enjoy the first date before I find out he is too poor to pay the check...LOL!
16th of Dec, 2007
Goldigger? No way!
All that digging might break my nails!
18th of Dec, 2007
LOL@Unme you said it!
18th of Dec, 2007
I think this article brings up an interesting point. During the course of "courting" we see the telltale signs of individuals dating for reasons other than romance. Now, I am not calling anyone's baby ugly so, hear me out please. From a woman's perspective, I am sure you heard of men who have no money to pay for dinner or worse yet, their credit card had been rejected after a meal and dessert. Also, there are women who have taken on the burden of raising children without additional financial support and need assistance to make ends meet. My point is, ultimately finances will play a factor in how a relationship works (or not) and being up front about your financial status (disclosure) is important... No, you don't have to do this on the first date but, should a relationship get to where the "C" or "M" word comes up, I think it should be mentioned... Disclaimer: These are my opinions and don't reflect the opinions or beliefs of others.
30th of Dec, 2007
Cobalt you have made a very valid statement about relationships and finances.Keep it real and to the point of what's going on and discuss issues..
8th of Jan, 2008
Thing is, some people get hit with medical bills that areout of their control, and get deep into debt. What about these people? They didn't go around overspending, they say had an operation that cost over $100k or worse yet, multiple operations. And lets not forget prescription meds. Ican say I hadover $11,000 in Rx bills alone last year. I now have insurance, but what if I didn't? So just because a person has bad credit, it does not mean they are not worth the chance of getting to know, and maybe getting married to.
10th of Jan, 2008
My theory...if they have enough money...that credit score won't matter...or pay cash and don't worry.
Smiles and world peace,
Sharon
30th of Apr, 2008
I have to agree with poster Richard E. Swope. I am currently paying off a $50,000 hospital bill for my mentally ill daughter...I have been paying this bill off for MANY years (15), and am almost done. It affected my credit for a long time, but I have worked hard to bring my credit score up to 700. But because of it, men have literally "run away" from me. It's hurtful, because I never asked anyone for anything. I work two jobs and pay my own way!
5th of May, 2008
The whole credit thing is really a romance killer, but a even bigger one is money: the lack of, the loaning of, the never getting repaid after the beakup part. I'm in the camp of the "three account" relationship in marriage or living together. There's "his", "hers" and "ours". Sit down, figure out the salaries, how much each is going to contribute to the pot. All the household expenses come out of the "ours" acct.(rent, utilites,house phone, Internet, birth control expenses, cablegroceries)All the other stuff(cell phone, clothing, transportation, credit card bill, luxuries) are paid by the person who would pay it anyway if they were single. No joint credit cards, EVER!!! No "authorized user" on personal credit cards, EVER! No, "I'll get you a card in my name so you can have lower interest rates", EVER!! No "I'll register your car in my name so the insurance is cheaper, EVER!! I have seen too many of my guy and girlfriends been burned by the person with the crappy credit who would clean out the joint account or "forget" to pay the rent after the relationship is over; or got stuck with the debt of the boy/girlfriend who ran up the credit card, cellphone/text overages, or get a ton of tickets on the car when it's over. Anyone who has seen one TV court show knows that besides the babydrama, it's the debt and bills being sued for. Call me crazy, but there's nothing like dating a broke ass! It annoyed me to loan a boyfriend money and he made more than me!!
5th of Jun, 2008
I agree with cocobaker813 and the article. America says you live and die by your score, so why act stupid about the fact that it is now as important as whether they have HIV or something just to avoid looking like a golddigger? if the person can't see the relevance of MONEY to LIFE, then they are not worth marrying and they can think whatever they like of you, from afar as you find someone who DOES share your views to keep close. people continue to ignore the fact that of the 50% of marriages that end in divorce, 90% of them are due to problems with money...so that means if 90% of us took this money thing way more seriously, only 10% of divorces would remain! It's not cheating, it's not people getting fat, it's not necessarily the kids...it's the MONEY underlying it all that's killing marriages these days.
In the past, when marriages lasted, aside from the woman being home to raise the kids til school age, people did not get married to people who made their financial situation worse instead of better. people married their equals. the bible says do not be unequally yoked and it is NOT just about religion...this money matter is a prime example. yes, the reasons why the credit is bad are good to know before making a decision, but if you have a 700 and the other person has a 450, you should probably take a 3 year engagement period for them to uptheir score and once they are at even a 600, you tie the knot.
And money is not the root of all evil. The bible says in Ecclesiastes that money answers ALL things. And we know that, because look how much less complicated and problematic and STRESSful life is when you have money for all needs and some wants?
Proverbs says the LOVE of money, is the root of all evil. not money. The LOVE of it. I hate when people use the bible as an excuse to remain dinosaurish and ignorant, or look down on other people's sensible conclusions.
23rd of Jun, 2008
the past is the past i look at it this way its what counts now i dont regard a persons history s a problem to me it was before i met them as my last partner was aan escort she did that before i met her so i cant hold that against her as for me well ive had a few partners to but thats all part of life and i was always safe now ime chilled out to have sex with a woman i have to have a reason like love connection aswell as lust
7th of Jul, 2008
we know some people we find money so that relationship be continue but if we dont have the relationship it cant continue.
isaac ashuma from KITALE-KENYA.
18th of Jul, 2008
A man is a man enough.A man can not serve one woman in relationship.if we want be a man enough be like matatu we can serve three woman or more in relationship and we can be a stranger.
Isaac ashuma from kitale-kenya.
21st of Jul, 2008
In this world????????????????if you loose one you get another.but if you dont know how to aproaching a girl it is your problems to you.Isaac ashuma from Kitale-kenya.
21st of Jul, 2008
in relationship we must do sex.because there was so many people who not like sex like girls. but she like money only.
ISAAC ASHUMA FROM KITALE-KENYA.
26th of Jul, 2008
in world firt put God first in everything you do.......??????.
4th of Aug, 2008
God says love everyone in world do not be like ghost.
I think folks should keep the bank accounts separate. Either way, all of the finances need to be discussed and worked out by the couple. Everyone knows that so many marriages end because of poor money management. It always helps to have a plan before getting married or living together.