Jul 23 2008

When Cougars Attack

I loved this article! I dated a younger man 10 years ago and he was so much fun and energetic. This one is definitely worth reading. Ladies stop limiting your unlimited opportunities!

Younger men are immature and 99% of them don't want a committed relationship with just one woman. That's why I only date in my own age group.

Are you sure that your "younger man" didn't own the hardware store? I have friends that own a great deal of lake shore property and often while tending to their own garden, people will pass by and ask "what are the OWNERS like to work for"? They smile and answer..."GREAT"! In my experience, I've found that we get our expectation. When I met my "younger man" I didn't know there was a 10 year difference because he didn't carry himself like any 23 year old I knew. Now that he's 34 and I've been able to take off 2 years to start a business and go back to school for an advanced degree...I'd have to disagree that younger men are afraid to commit or are just good for "boy toys". He's done what no other man I've known has ever done for a woman and that's "Take care of me... "financially, physically and spiritually". The key for me was respect. No matter what age...we all need it.

The only aspect that bothers me about it is the name. "Cougar" would indicate that the woman is the hunter. Yet in my case, it's younger men who have been contacting me. What name do we have for younger men who are seeking out older women?

I personally think there is nothing wrong with an older woman having a younger man. I have always attracted younger men (at 18, one of my first boyfriends was a year younger than me..at that age it's a BIG difference...LOL)....and have always had a "young at heart" mentality so the "things in common" issue has never really been one for me. This is just another barrier/limitation that really just needs to be minimized......NOT A BIG DEAL, PEOPLE.

I was married to someone 10 years younger for 17 years. It was great and we had 3 beautiful children. I do not consider myself a cougar but definitely a panther. I do not relate to the golf crowd and to the corvette owners over 50 so i guess i will stick to my panther ways and enjoy. let me note i do not have a problem dating with my age bracket as long as they can keep up)no pun intended} lololololo

I loved your post. A couple of much younger men made me a very happy woman over the years and I'd even marry one if I met one that really fit with me in many directions. Two men who were 21 years younger than me actually hit on me and kept coming back again. It was paradise. They were afraid of giving me a heart ache - but I was more afraid of a heart attack. (Well not really afraid 'cause its good to die happy).

Now isn't this right on time with the post I just made under "lying on your profile," saying that we should be flexible with our preferences ? I'm in my mid-fifties, but over the past year I've dated women in their 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, and even one in her 90's. As a general rule I have more in common with the ones in their 50's, but I've learned a lot from the one in her 90's, and I've fallen in love with one who is 29 (and she thinks I'm the most wonderful man she hs ever known). The lady in her 90's is phenominal; she is more active - and looks younger - than most people my age. I've had a lot of ladies in their 20's, 30's, and even 40's reject me as being "too old", but all my 29-year-old soulmate can say is, "they just don't know...their loss is my gain!"

wow..fearless life is what you make it..if you are happy the 90yr old..so be it brother

" 31st of Jul, 2008 Younger men are immature and 99% of them don't want a committed relationship with just one woman. That's why I only date in my own age group. Posted by girlsixdiva" That's a horrible thing to say. I'm sorry if you've had bad experiences in the past but that statement simply isn't true.

If you make assumptions about people based on age, how far are you from making them based on religion, skin tone or any of the other biased lines of thought that plague our world? Maybe the reason so many relationships don't go the distance is because those involved get involved with the stereotype and not with the person. Loving a person takes commitment, acceptance, compromise and willingness. A stereotype shell can be replaced without much thought.

not all young men are flirters..some can actually committ depending on what your terms of realtionship was about.

I loved this article, and i'm all for dating or having a relationship with a younger man. I spent 40 yrs with the love of my life who past away in January of last yr, who was 7 yrs my jr. I'm in a wonderful relationship now with a man thats 12 yrs younger than i am. Trust me the perks of being with a younger man is more than i can describe here.

I loved the article. I like older women, they're often more sure about themselves and what they want. That's very sexy and appealing. Also, they like to celebrate their own youthful attitude which is fun. Anyone interested? Then mail me! Lol

Good to know it has become a somewhat common thing. I did not hear it mentioned that women who work out and take care of themselves look younger and have stamina themselves. Most people guess i am 10 years younger than i am. i have had boys younger than my own children hit on me. it always surprises me, but it is flattering. the youngest i have dated for a length of time was 13 years younger. i enjoy younger people as a whole, as i am young at heart and still love to have a good time. old men remind me of my grandfather and that is disgusting. all young men are not great lovers, nor are all black men. you cannot generalize either. Being a great lover is more an attitude of what makes the other person happy and asking questions. as for me, i just find chocolate muscles sexy, so that's who I seek out. age is an attitude!

I loved this article. It's always good to know that one is not alone on the subject of "Cougar-dom" :). I have often used the term 'I'm a Cougar" not in the terms of 'hooking up to have sex' but to having a refreshed, exciting and invigorating relationship with someone that does not care about the age difference. I have always been told that I look at least 10 years younger than my actual age and that is very flattering. I feel and act young at heart and I believe it's the attitude towards life that makes the difference in who or what one may attract. I'm more interested in 'where' a young man is going in life than where an 'older' man has already been, (in terms of experiences). Whilst I am still searching for that 'guy' I'm going to relish the fact that feeling like a 'Cougar' is AWESOME!!!

I trully believe love is WHERE you find it's not in the lables attached to it ie: blk, wht, older, younger, sugar daddy, cougar and many others. Only the people involved in these relationships know their true motives and the reason behind what they're doing. Only the younger guys know if he's only looking for an ego boost by being with a " matured " woman, maybe she's established career wise, she may be a business owner or finacially well to do. Only the woman knows if she's looking for a boost to her self esteem by having a younger men pursue her. I bbelieve that both the younger man and the matured woman gain something for the relationship is so way, will it lead to ever lasting love? Who knows? As long as both people are true to their needs and honest with the other person, then why not " ride it till the wheels fall off! As a man in my late 30's I have an appreciation for the " Matured Woman", she's experienced life, she's had her ups & downs and turn arounds. She's knows herself sexually and she's comfortable in her own skin but most of all she has no time for games. A man can drive a Rolls Royce, wear the best suits, live an up scale home but until he's dated a " Matured Woman he has yet to experience one of the finest things in life!

When I was approached by a guy 19 younger than I it was a little shocking. I mean we were both past the age of consent and it was fun, a lot of fun like a Circus (being thrown into the center ring!) Over time (it was an affair after-all), it grew to represent us both. One can't swing from the chandelier 24/7 there is room for tenderness. This can be wonderful not all women of a certain age are really Cougars!