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May 12 2006
Background checks the good, bad and ugly.
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1st of Sep, 2006
Some things are better kept unknown to the other partner.
4th of Sep, 2006
You do what you need to do to make sure your guy brings as much to the table as you do, plus there are a lot of dishonest people out there!
5th of Sep, 2006
Some things are better left unsaid until you get to know each other more.
9th of Sep, 2006
In this day and time, you really never know what type of person you are meeting whether in person or online. I think just using common sense is the best policy.
9th of Sep, 2006
Sometimes you really need the low down on someone before you get involved. How many people are really trustworthy online? You never know...do a background check...find out what elementary school someone went to if you have to, just make sure for your safety.
12th of Sep, 2006
The way I feel today during these crazy dating times you just never know what type of person you are meeting either in person or online. I just try to use common sense......that is the best way
12th of Sep, 2006
I am asking myself the same question...is it safe to e-mail or reply to people online.When you really think about it when you go to a bar and you meet a new guy it's the same if you had met him online because you don't have no idea who he is.....you got to find out on your own
14th of Sep, 2006
Good article...something to think about for sure..I've never considered a background check on someone, but will if the need arises.
19th of Sep, 2006
Wow. This is an eye-opening article. There is a lot to think about when internet dating.
19th of Sep, 2006
This is why I tell people to look at the heart of a person.. You never know who you dealing with online... I could be a crazy woman as far as you might think.. hmmmm well ok i am but .. Listen to this article people and date safe...
22nd of Sep, 2006
It doesn't hurt to know who you're really dealing with, but you should start by just asking that person directly. If they hesitate or aren't forthcoming or if your gut feeling tells you something's not quite right, then you should hire the pros.
23rd of Sep, 2006
A real good article. Poeple should check out all the details before getting into any relationship.
27th of Sep, 2006
so whatever happened to privacy that america talks about all the time
12th of Oct, 2006
this sounds like 1984!!!!
13th of Oct, 2006
I do many background checks as part of my job.Its good to know who you are associating with.
13th of Oct, 2006
This is an great topic!!
I myself did a check on my man, after informing him of my intention's and seekin his reaction as to my reason's for doing a search. He was a little puzzled but encouraging and it helped that he was so willing to have me check him out!!!
13th of Oct, 2006
Love is blind, so is the desire to be loved. Do the check.
14th of Oct, 2006
I dont think I would ever run a background check on someone unless I didnt trust them, but if I didnt trust them then there was no point for a relationship!
2nd of Nov, 2006
a lover should have have a problem if their other behalf does a background check on them. if you got nothing to hide i guess
5th of Nov, 2006
I don't know how I would feel if I found out a background check was ran on me. I guess it would make me feel I couldn't trust the person that couldn't trust me. I think unless the person gave you reason for doing it like saying " I went to prison twice, but I can't talk about it now, I'll tell you later" then a back ground check is screaming to be done. Or just drop them right there, which ever makes you safe.
10th of Nov, 2006
I did a check of sorts on a guy who told me he was divorcing, and found out that he wasn't. That saved me a lot of further heartache. There was another guy I *should* have run a check on, but never did. My gut always told me he was lying about a bunch of little things, but I thought he was just insecure and trying to impress. It was only later that I realized that lying was a way of life for him, and he was lying about *everything*, both little and big. No more liars for me. I'd rather face an unpleasant truth right away than find out about a pack of lies down the line. I wouldn't mind if a guy did, say, a premarital background check on me, and I would do one on him. I would appreciate that he wanted to make absolutely sure he was making the right decision before jumping in. I'd respect that.
13th of Nov, 2006
There can be so much deceit this is a must.
13th of Nov, 2006
When meeting someone online, it is important that we take our time to get to know the person. There are some untrusting people out there, but at the same time there are very genuine people also. Follow your heart when meetig someone online, but at the same time also use your common sense
24th of Nov, 2006
you can never be to safe.
24th of Nov, 2006
gREAT ARTICLE NEVER LOOKED AT IT THIS WAY!
26th of Nov, 2006
I also agree that you have to trust you instincts. If something feels wrong, it usually is wrong.
8th of Dec, 2006
Very interesting!
14th of Dec, 2006
so far they all have been bad
16th of Dec, 2006
Nothing wrong with a little education
18th of Dec, 2006
There are so many dishonest folks out there, so better to be safe than sorry. Protect yourself and do that background check!
22nd of Dec, 2006
some things you need to find out, and other things you dont.
8th of Jan, 2007
some background ckecks have been good bad and ugly.
11th of Mar, 2007
Yes..good article and some good points----of course background checks only do so much anyways...If a person has the right higher connections...most anything can be covered up...I mean for real...seems some truth serum or a damn good amount of alcohol might get some tight lips to talk...!!!-----either you--you get what you pay for!!
21st of Jan, 2008
Well said...there are a lot of pedophilas going rampant on the internet manipulating unsuspecting women in order to get closer to their children ,so of course I am leery and rather extremely protective of myhome and family...thnx
Some things are better kept unknown to the other partner.